Sensory Quick Guide: 5 things to know, look for, and try
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5 Things to Understand About Sensory Challenges
1. This is about how nervous systems process input, not behaviour.
Sensory challenges are real differences in how kids take in, filter, and make sense of the world around them, inside them, and the relationship between those two. “Behaviour" is often a nervous system doing its best to cope.
2. Sensory distress can cause real pain, panic, or disconnection.
This isn't just discomfort. For some kids, sound hurts. Clothing feels unbearable. Not getting enough sensory input can be terrifying. Kids aren't being dramatic or picky. Their bodies are giving them urgent stress signals.
3. Kids don’t always express sensory struggles in clear ways.
Many kids don’t say, "my ears hurt." Instead, they get irritable, shut down, or act out. If you don't experience sensory input the way your child does, it's hard to recognize what's happening: the world feels fine to you, so it's easy to miss the sensory struggle.
4. Kids might not even realize it's sensory.
Kids make sense of discomfort the best way they can, but they can easily misattribute their stress. Instead of "this noise hurts," they decide, "Everyone here hates me." If the real cause isn't addressed, those misattributions can spill into confidence, relationships, and motivation.
5. Simple sensory supports can make an outsized difference.
Sometimes moving a seat, changing lighting, adding movement, or offering headphones helps more than years of behaviour or regulation programs, not because those are bad, but because they require a regulated nervous system.
[Read the full article: Understanding sensory challenges]
5 Ways Sensory Challenges Might Show Up in Your Child
1. Big reactions to "normal" or "small" things.
Screaming "it's too loud!" when it’s not. Absolutely hating sunscreen. Outsized reactions to minor bumps or scrapes. Gagging on certain food textures. Total refusal to participate in activities that seem fine to everyone else.
2. Constant movement or crashing.
Jumping, hugging too hard, bumping into people, chewing things. Some kids slap their own skin to get input (this is different from self-harm). Movement and pressure can help kids feel where their bodies are.
3. Eating and clothing battles.
Very “picky” eating, gagging on textures, strong preferences for crunchy or spicy foods. Wearing only one outfit. A war on underwear or socks.
4. Mysterious physical complaints.
Headaches, stomachaches, itching, motion sickness, seeming like a "hypochondriac." Internal sensations and pain processing can be part of sensory differences, or kids may not have other ways to describe what they’re experiencing.
5. Behaviour that escalates fast, is "weird," or seems out of nowhere.
0–60 reactions, irritability, spacing out, meltdowns after school. Behaviours that don't make sense to adults like smelling everything or making repetitive noises.
[Read more: Understanding sensory challenges]
5 Things to Try Right Now
(you don’t have to do all 5!)
1. Help them regulate first.
When your child is overwhelmed, their nervous system is flooded. Your first priority is helping them get regulated, not teaching coping skills or addressing any imperfect communication or behaviour.
2. Watch what they are doing for clues to what they need.
If your child jumps on the bed every night, maybe they need more movement. If they’re hiding, maybe they need a sensory break. Behaviour is information.
3. Offer sensory strategies before things fall apart
A “sensory diet” offers movement, pressure, or quiet input regularly throughout the day, especially before known hard moments. Make it routine, not something you pull out during meltdowns. Schedule a movement break before homework every day, a heavy work task before bedtime, or a quiet decompression period after school that happens whether they're struggling or not.
4. Use tools thoughtfully.
A few guidelines:
Try one new thing at a time so you can see what actually helps
Prioritize agency: ask your child what helps, let them explore how to use tools
Give tools a chance: try them multiple times, in different contexts, over several days
Tools are needs, not rewards or something to take away as a consequence
Expect trial and error. Relief, comfort, and engagement mean it's helping. More agitation, shutdown, or escalation mean stop immediately and try something else. Check in with your child when they're calm.
5. Get support (if you can)
Occupational therapists are amazing and can help decode patterns and reduce distress. I know not everyone has access.
BONUS: Top 3 things to try
1. Reduce the input
Headphones, sunglasses. A workspace with less visual clutter or away from crowds. Regular breaks in quiet spaces with no demands. Dim the lights, turn down the music, let them escape the chaos.
2. Increase the input
Big, heavy movements: jumping, pushing against a wall, carrying heavy things. Swinging. Compression clothing, tight hugs, "burrito rolls" in blankets. Lots of big movement breaks throughout the day.
3. Once they're regulated: help them express the need
When kids understand what's happening in their bodies, sensations feel less threatening. They can solve the real problem (the noise or heat) instead of the explanation they make up ("I hate math"). Model descriptive language for physical sensations: "This sweater feels ROUGH on my skin." Teach a simple advocacy pattern: "I have a sensory thing. [X] is really hard for me. I need [break/headphones/movement]."
This is just the Quick Guide.
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