Thoughts, information, encouragement, and practical advice.
Real life sensory strategies
Practical sensory strategies for kids who crash, freeze, or melt down. Learn how to choose a tool for your child, when to use it, how to tell if it's helping, and what you can ask for at school, so your child gets the support they need.
Communication: Real life strategies for your real life child
Practical ideas, advice, and strategies for helping children who struggle with communication at home and at school, including kids with ADHD, autism, anxiety, and more.
ADHD: Real Life Strategies for Your Real Life Child
Practical strategies and advice to help your child with ADHD by supporting their brain, adjusting their environment or work, and building connection and agency.
When it’s already hard: Triage for the first month of school
It’s only September, and you already have that lump in your stomach. Maybe nothing’s happened, but your child is barely holding it together. Maybe they’ve already been sent out of class so often they have a “usual spot.” It feels like all you can do is give them pep talks and beg.
That’s not all you can do. Here are some things you and your child’s teacher can try right away. They’re realistic in a busy school: I used them for years.
Summer Survival Kit, Part 3: Your Game Plan for Outings
Forget the highlight reel. This is the summer of realistic adventures for our kids with big feelings and big behaviours, planned around their actual needs, not someone else’s idea of what it should look like.
We are redefining success. Not perfection. Not other people’s Instagram feeds. Just fun, safety, and connection. Small wins, realistic expectations, and memories that don’t require emotional triage afterward.
Here are some ideas for making that happen.
Anxiety, part 3: How to help your child during a panic attack
When a child is panicking, it doesn’t always look like tears and fast breathing. It can look like defiance, rudeness, aggression, or ignoring you. They might scream, hit, shake, run away, or yell orders. When it’s happening, your job is not to stop the behavior. It’s to recognize the panic underneath it, and help your child feel safe again. Here are ideas for how to do that.
Summer Survival #1: It might be sensory
Summer is a sensory nightmare. If your child is struggling this summer at camp, on outings, or at home, try exploring sensory strategies, even if they’re not complaining about being hot or itchy. Read on for ideas, strategies, language to use, and tools you need.
How to help your real life anxious child in the real life moment (Anxiety, part 2)
Sometimes the usual strategies to help with anxiety can backfire spectacularly.
But what actually helps? Because when your child is melting down about getting on the school bus or convinced something terrible is about to happen, you need strategies that work. Not next week, not after six months of therapy—but right now, in your living room, with your real-life anxious kid, especially if that child has other things making it hard, like ADHD, autism, PDA, panic attacks, or OCD.
“Aren’t they a little old for that lovey?”
Oh, the lovey. It might be a fabulously soft bunny blanket or a stuffed bear, dad’s old shirt or that one blue truck. It’s gotta come everywhere, it’s not allowed to be washed, and it’s irreplaceable (they’ll know if you’ve ordered a duplicate!). As kids get older, so do loveys. At some point, people start commenting, “Aren’t they a little old to still have that thing?” Grandma has opinions. And parents start stressing: Will my child never be independent? Will she get married with her bouquet in one hand and a thirty year old blankie in the other?? What can I do???
Why are transitions so darn hard?
Why are transitions so darn hard? And why are they extra hard for kids with things like ADHD, autism, and more? Let’s look at what skills transitions take, and how you can make them easier for your child and yourself.
Lower the Bar
Great, you’ve figured out what’s making things hard for your child. What now??
